When was the last time you took a double-take at something?
For me it was a few nights ago in the pillow section of Target, when the perfect shade of green caught my eye. Target Home Decor section for the win- again. *sigh
I also did another double take that evening. Only this time it was at a girl. But before you label me as some creeper shopping lady, see if you can relate to me at all…
I saw this beautiful girl about my age walking towards me, dish soap and greeting cards in hand, and noticed how her legs fit perfectly into her leggings. You know, the way the mannequins do. They didn’t looked squished into $12 fabric pants, they just fit. At first glance I observed; at the second glance however, I looked with eyes of comparison and scrutiny towards my own legging legs. After that moment of comparison, I felt jealousy and bitterness towards this girl whom I have never met. And you better believe I felt lousy about myself. This is The Knot in action.
I came home and scrolled through social media, realizing that I do this “double-take” virtually as well as in person. I see a photo that catches my eye, so I go to her profile and look at more photos of her. Oh wow, look at how close she and her friends look. Here I go again, from the comfort of my own couch.
The irony of all this is that women hate to be objectified, right? When a man looks at you and only see’s legs, you’d call that demoralizing. I’m beginning to wonder if every time we look at a girl and only see perfect legging legs, flawless skin, or a funny personality, if we’re actually objectifying her. Unfortunately, I think we are doing just that.
So often we turn a girl into an object to be envied rather than a sister worth knowing. And that has got to change. The Bible tells us that we are all, each and every one of us, created uniquely in the image of God. So when we miss out on knowing a sister, because we’ve made her into an object, we’re missing out on certain characteristics of God. What an opportunity we’re passing up!
Hebrews 12 is the theme for Detangled&Free. Verses 1-2 say, “Let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus the pioneer and perfector of faith.”
I don’t want to double-take if its only for the purpose of comparison. I don’t want to look again if its only going to put a wedge of bitterness between a girl I don’t even know. I want to throw off the habit of double-taking for the purpose of comparison and fix my eyes on Jesus for the purpose of loving- loving the Lord, loving others, AND loving myself!
Do you double-take with the the lens of comparison?
Join me in throwing second-glances away, fixing our eyes on Jesus. No turning back.
“I have decided to follow Jesus. No turning back, No turning back.”
With Love & Freedom,